Authors Note: In November, we had a filmmaker spend three days with us to interview staff, parents, and kids, as well as capture our everyday moments. He recently sent me rough drafts of four short videos that he had created with some of the footage. One is entitled "Why". That one hit me hard - right in the tear-jerking place, and that is where this particular blog post came from.

You know that satisfying emotion - the one you feel when you realize that someone "gets" you?  Is there a better feeling in this world - when you know that you can be yourself with that person - no filters, no actor's masks, or mental gymnastics required?

Asking someone to adapt themselves to conform - is asking them to change their inherent being because we can't manage them the way they are.  Kids know when they don't "fit" in.  And their takeaway is that they are broken in some fundamental way.  

It is my contention that every child should experience affirmation every single day.  Every kid deserves to be surrounded by people who accept them on every level and where no one will try to change them to fit into the environment (or society).   

Rather than reforming the essence of any child, I believe that we should alter the environment, along with our own biases.   

This includes everything, from medical diagnoses to identity.  For example, children with ADHD need an environment that supports their momentum and staggering creativity fueled by wild curiosity.  It is no different than adapting the room for a wheelchair, walker, or other physical handicap support.  And, when a child tells you their personal pronouns and the name they prefer - use them!  No snide remarks, eye rolls, or arguments are required (or even permitted).  

Wait!  I am not telling you to stop supporting children to improve their skill levels and learn new tasks.  However, I am saying that we can not take it on, as a task, with the intention of changing them to suit our (or society's) needs or expectations.  

All children deserve to be celebrated. Not for what they can or can not do, but for who they are - deep inside.  When kids feel like they are OK, as they are, self-assurance becomes their default mode.  And when people feel content, they are more likely to take on new challenges and look at the world as a place to explore all the possibilities.

This, in a nutshell, is why Deep Root Center exists. 

We are happy to say that eight St. Lawrence University students will be volunteering again this semester through the Community Based Learning Program.  They will offer classes and activities through our virtual learning portal on the Discord App. You can find our schedule here.  Keep in mind that it will be updated regularly over the next week as we create sessions for the students that fit within their preferences and weekly calendars.

DRC accepts new student members throughout the year.  If you are interested in joining our community, please get in touch.

This is our "Did You Know" series, on Social Media, from this past week.

Who is your tribe?  To be clear, who are the people you align yourself with ideologically, not ethnically?  

Some of us can admit (I can only hope), our answer to that question five, or ten years ago (or possibly even six months ago) was different than our response today.

Despite the common understanding, based on a system that trains us from an early age to do the exact opposite (how many times have you heard "make up your mind and stick with it?"), our personal belief systems should transmute and change as we grow and become aware of ideas and information that were not previously part of our understanding.  No, it doesn't make you "wishy-washy," contradictory, or weak.   It, in its purest essence, defines a receptive and flexible open mind (and science).  

And on the other side of the coin, the inability and unwillingness to explore new concepts and change your opinion do not imply a strength of will or character. They are the precise descriptions of narrow-mindedness and intolerance (and pseudo-science).  

I have a theory that some people are more susceptible to believing conspiracy theories spouted by charlatans because they feel disconnected and disengaged.  I am basing my premise on existing research around addiction.  There have been many studies, with humans and other animals, that have proven that a lack of meaningful relationships drives the habitual seeking of something else to take the place of it.   

Within that theory, I find it utterly fascinating that people with an insular perspective actively try to convince themselves and others (gas-lighting) that they are, in actuality, not closed to new ideas by doing "research" and "seeking" out data.  Because of the proliferation of biased media sources and straight-up fake news outlets, it is easier to find and latch onto these con-men and become addicted to cherry-picking and spinning information that "proves" their original rigid stance.  

And this is where we are right now.  When one tribe is engaged in the fantasy of strength and moral rectitude and incited by inaccuracy and delusional behavior, it becomes the meeting place of conflict - the conflagration of ideologies.  

With that understanding, I remain committed to providing a community where engagement and connection are the foundation.  And a place (even though it is virtual right now) where everyone is encouraged to explore the possibilities, make mistakes, and, yes, change their minds whenever they discover a new way of thinking.

This past week , in honor of our 7th Birthday, on our social media, we revisited the Liberated Learner Seven Guiding Principles articulated by Ken Danford, the co-founder of North Star in Sunderland, MA.  Find the descriptions here.

Membership is Open
Our staff and student members are still connecting remotely through our virtual schedule.  If you are interested in joining the DRC community, please get in touch.  

As is customary, we all tend to take stock at the end of one year and the beginning of the next.  This time around, it seems like there is even more at stake.  We are putting an awful lot of pressure on 2021. 

However, I would point out that the dumpster fire, shit show that was 2020, was not about the year - it never is.  It was a perfect storm, a culmination of nearly 250 years of bad decisions and horrendous policies developed by people (oligarchs) who have no concern for anyone but themselves (egos) and their wallets.  

It isn't up to 2021 to solve these problems - it can't.  January 20th, while a hugely positive step, will not, alone, usher in our saving graces.  The fundamental issues of an inequitable and unjust society will be festering just below the glossy patina of this new administration, in the same way, it has for our entire history.  

It is up to us, the people who have the most at stake, to get creative and disrupt the status quo.  Begin by supporting your neighbors.  Stop thinking of charity as handouts and start considering it an act of resistance.  The best way to make progress and to change the culture is to build it up from the bottom - the very roots.  Eventually, these acts of rebellion, hidden within gestures of caring and kindness, will forge community, which will, over time, go on to generate a new way of thinking about the essential construct of our entire culture and society.  

Absolutely, spend some time to reflect. Get a firm grasp on your personal takeaways - then use that knowledge to interrupt, disrupt, and make a difference. 2021 will not be any different than 2020 unless you and I commit to a cultural revolution fueled by compassion, consideration, understanding, and respect.  

• After watching this video from Beau of the Fifth, I was able to finally get all of the disconnected thoughts that have been churning around my head for the past few weeks to coalesce into something that makes sense. 

In January 2014, DRC Canton opened our doors with one very cool ten-year-old, me, a couple of computers, no heat, no internet, a few pieces of furniture, and a whole lot of dreams. Now, seven years later, we have a total of thirty-eight amazing students, divided between two Centers and the Distance Learning Program.  We own one of those facilities, have an awesome staff and volunteers, there are heat and internet, as well as tons of resources and materials, and we still have some really big aspirations.

Thank you to everyone who has been part of this amazing journey.  I am beyond grateful to all of you for the love, support, and hard work that has gone into making this vision come true.  Onward!

And, if you would like to join DRC, as we move full steam ahead into 2021 please get in touch.

Best wishes for a bright, curiosity filled New Year from the entire DRC Crew!  Take some risks! Get messy!  And, have fun!

What can DRC offer our student members during a global pandemic? Back in March, I struggled with this question mightily. We have always provided a physical space filled with resources and materials, where spontaneity and creativity ruled our daily itinerary, as well as an open environment free of coercion and compulsory activities.  We never had a formal schedule of classes that everyone adhered to, let alone shared on a video chat.  

And, to be honest, in the middle of March, when we shut down the first time, despite trying to offer an alternative way to "do DRC" on Discord or Google Meet, our kids straight-up refused. They were happy to check in every few weeks to report on what they were working on, so we could write their homeschool progress reports together, but they honestly didn't need DRC.

Fast forward through the Summer when I spent my days preparing to be, in-person, at both Centers, with as many safety precautions in place as humanly possible, in September.  One of those built-in safety features came directly from the St. Lawrence University Community Based Learning Program who sends us student volunteers each semester. They had decided to have their students participate in the program following a completely remote model.  This fall, they assigned us, seven students, for two hours a week, each.

That was the impetus we needed to create a weekly slate of virtual sessions based entirely on what our student members requested, as well as the talents and knowledge that the SLU students wanted to share with our kids.  We supplemented what they were offering with sessions filled with hands-on activities facilitated by the DRC staff.  
   
The other driving force behind this first-ever formal schedule was our newly designed distance learning program. Without a daily itinerary, the distance learning peeps would not know when to connect with us virtually.  

I am happy to say that, in Canton, it worked!  Well, with a few technical glitches that are part of learning a new system, as well as hourly reminders that classes were starting.  It worked so well that we began offering the hands-on sessions that the staff was facilitating as virtual options, too. And, when kids stayed at home because of illness or anxiety about COVID, they continued to connect to their sessions remotely.

I should mention that during the fall, the Lawrenceville (DRC- East) Peeps didn't participate in the virtual schedule. They were happily engaged with their hands-on, completely spontaneous immersion in whatever "lit their fire" on any particular day.

Fast forward, again, to mid-November, when COVID numbers began rising in St. Lawrence County, and a good number of our families were keeping their children home. Our daily numbers at the Canton Center dropped to three to five kids.  We decided, once again, to close. At that point, the SLU students had one more week of their sessions before they finished the semester.  After our experience during the Spring, I was nervous.  Would our kids want to, or even remember to, sign in to their virtual classes?  For the most part, they did!  

That confirmation was all we needed to set-up a new schedule of remote sessions facilitated by the staff and DRC kids following Thanksgiving week.  Again, these are classes and activities that our student members specifically requested.  Many are carry-overs from the previous schedule with a new facilitator, and a few are new.   

We are now two weeks into this new itinerary, and I am thrilled to report that most of our kids signed up for a good number of sessions (including the Lawrenceville Peeps), and they are showing up. Not only that, but we are noticing that they hang out after their sessions are technically over, sometimes for hours.  

What have we learned through all this?  Firstly, we have proven, again, that, as an organization, we are unbelievably flexible.  We are adept at providing for all the needs of our student members within the confines of any given situation, even if we have to create something, quite literally, on the fly.

Secondly, we have confirmed (once again) that our non-coercive methods work. These kids are actively engaged and are making connections to their community, the people they have grown to trust, and, yes, love - even when there are additional hoops to jump through. (No one is sitting next to them, telling them to turn on their computers and sign-in.)  

And lastly, as we already know, human beings, are naturally designed to grow and learn, which means we will intrinsically adapt and, yes, even thrive when given the opportunity.

* P.S. - Gratitude to Elian, who is facilitating the majority of these virtual sessions, as well as Chase and Ryan for showing up for our kids every day.

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DRC is open to any child who is struggling and unhappy with their virtual or hybrid school experience.  Contact us today to learn more about our Distance Learning Programs.

Thank you!
We are sending out a shout of gratitude to the Canton Community Fund Board of directors.  They approved our grant asking for five Chromebooks.  Thanks to them, our Canton students have, all-important, access to their community.

Funding Appeal
We are still seeking contributions to our Fall Funding Appeal.  You can donate here, or you can send a check directly to DRC at 48 Riverside Dr., Canton, NY 13617.  Thank you!

2020 Funding Appeal - the digital version of our newsletter went out his past week. We are awaiting delivery of the paper copies, which will go out as soon as we receive them.  

If you are able, please consider a contribution.  Thank you!

Those of you who know me, either in person or through these weekly musings, have heard me rail against the constraints of societal norms. Within that, you have probably noticed that I regularly express my contempt for tradition, ritual, and routine.

This morning while I was lying on the bedroom floor, talking myself through daily yoga poses and stretches, I realized, with some clarity, that I willingly participate in some routine activities every single day without chafing against them.  And, in most cases, those rituals make my life measurably better.   

What then is the difference?  Why do some push all my buttons, while others are appreciated habits?  This thought process, of course, sent me down another rabbit hole, a place I visit quite often while on the yoga mat in various, adapted poses. Today, while laying in the final backstretch, waiting to hear the popping sound that indicates that my hips have achieved (semi) alignment, the words "expectation" and "obligation" dropped into my head simultaneously.   That one collective concept is, of course, the key.  

When I feel pushed and coerced into doing something, simply because it is tradition, I will automatically rebel.  In my mind, there doesn't need to be any other logical reason.  For some, my rebellion over seemingly inconsequential stuff has the appearance of pure obstinacy or ridiculous lines drawn in the sand.  

However, it makes utter sense when you consider that inconsistency, along with contradiction and hypocrisy, is the combination of traits that rests second on my list of pet peeves.

Why would I blindly accept (and celebrate) the ritualistic traditions that are part of my culture when my daily reality runs counter to societal norms, including the mission of providing a non-coercive educational environment and programming for any child who needs us?  Not only that, but I also (some would say foolishly) trust that those kids are intrinsically motivated to seek out everything they need to grow and learn.

This internal conversation all leads, quite handily, to the reason this particular warren of thoughts was grappling for release from my subconscious this morning.

It is once again the time of year that we reach out to you for financial assistance. Yes, asking for your contribution has become an annual tradition. However, the last thing I want is for you to feel obligated to donate. Just as I am confident in our student's abilities to take on whatever challenges they encounter, I trust that the folks with whom our message resonates, and are able, will support us financially.

That, indeed, was the case for an incredibly generous donor who recently sent an unsolicited check for $5000.00.  There are no words for the emotions that swirled when I opened that envelope. Nor for the short message I received a few days later in response to my note of thanks, stating that he wanted to acknowledge his appreciation of our work, especially during these challenging times.  

I am deeply grateful for every dollar and for every kind word of support that recognizes our commitment to honoring our promise to our community. Thank you!

* Contribute an online donation here, or send a check to Deep Root Center, 48 Riverside Dr., Canton, NY 13617.

Yes, "this" sucks in so many ways. Folks are sick and dying, are forced to work in unsafe conditions, or have lost their jobs. Many can't pay their rent (or mortgage), buy food and other necessities, and can't find childcare - which only highlights the fact that those without privilege are (and will be) the hardest hit.  Some would argue the very definition of entitlement is freedom (h/t Kenzie Corse).  That, however, is a critical conversation I will save for another day.  

The point I would like to make today is that each of us with privilege, who can shelter at home without repercussions, has the opportunity to embrace all the possibilities (without whining about our lack of freedoms).  Foremost, it is a chance to generate ideas - new ways of being and doing. The tired argument, "this is the way we have always done it," does not work, and to be honest, it never has.

Additionally, if you are waiting for our world to go back to normal - please understand that normalcy never existed.  And even if it had, why would we want to go back?  

Yes, I completely understand the feelings of utter exhaustion that accompanies all of "this." The bone-deep weariness that invades and impedes our desire to be creative, as well as all the good intentions buried beneath our body and mind's demand to hibernate. (Note that collection of blog posts I promised that never got written and my second children's book that was never illustrated or self-published.) 

Nevertheless, I am continuously inspired and motivated by the innovations and forward motion that has come, despite the mental and physical fatigue, as a direct response to the challenges presented by this pandemic and societal unrest.  

Deep Root Center, for example, developed a new distance learning program, which we were able to devise only because our St. Lawrence University Community Based Learning (CBL) students had to volunteer virtually.  We generated a schedule of Google Meet sessions, based on what our in-person and distance learning kids were interested in, then paired DRC members with the CBL facilitators and mentors.

This experiment was so successful we began adding the projects and activities the staff was facilitating in-person at the Center to the virtual schedule.  Up till now, with a couple of exceptions, only our Canton kids and the Distance Learning peeps have taken advantage of the virtual opportunities. Happily, now that we are fully remote, with a schedule of Google Meet and Discord sessions facilitated by DRC staff, our Lawrenceville kids are hopping on board.   

This level of engagement would not have been possible without the innovations that came out of necessity.  Despite not being together in a physical space, we are all enriched.  

History has taught us that forward motion will always be uncomfortable, initially. The path to progress will always be open to those who can think outside the box and embrace (and endure) the growing pains.  

DRC has open enrollment throughout the year.   Get in touch if you would like to join our "virtual" world.  This schedule is flexible; we will add Sessions as they are requested.  

We wish you a Happy Thanksgiving from everyone at DRC.  Stay safe!

Playing has become a four-letter word in our culture.  Uttering the three words, "I am playing," conjures up frivolity, excess, diversionary tactics, plastic toys, and the needless waste of time.  Which explains why most 9-18-year-olds I meet can look me straight in the eye and say, either, "I used to play when I was young, but I don't anymore, or I don't know how to play."  

Somewhere along the way, we have lost the true definition of play.  It, in its purest form, is exploration based on curiosity, imagination, and creativity.  And not coincidentally, is also the driving force behind all authentic learning.  

Therefore, I am on a mission to normalize and legitimize not only the word but the act of playing.  

Yes, among many other things, I play with written words, graphic design, food, tech skills, and even verbal communication.  I use the word "play" explicitly (and sometimes provocatively) to describe any task.  I want to express very clearly that I enjoy my work and that I anticipate having fun.  

Most of us will only take anything on voluntarily (even if it may seem challenging or hard) if there is the promise of pleasure, happiness, and the feeling of satisfaction from a job well done at the end.  Hence, the very concept of enjoyment drives self-motivation, which, not surprisingly, along with rigor, is the number one concern for most parents (and teens) who contact me.

As human beings, we will not do (or learn) something simply because someone tells us that we "have to" or that it is necessary for our future. 

Our evolution, as humans, required all authentic learning to be driven by imagination, creativity, experimentation, and the exploration of all the things that we are each profoundly interested in. These are the notions that make us ask questions, spend hours contemplating, seeking out the answers, challenging the status quo, and creating solutions, change, and, most importantly, art.

We are all playing here.  Make it worth your while, and have fun!

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This past week we were very fortunate to have a film-maker, Liam Crossen, at the Center interviewing our student members, staff, and families to create short vignettes, as well as action footage of the Centers for our social media accounts and website. We are excited that you will have the chance to hear about Deep Root Center from the perspective of those who spend their days here.  These will begin rolling out as soon as he has them edited.  Stay-tuned!

This amazing opportunity was perfectly timed - we decided to go fully remote beginning Monday, Nov. 16th, as the number of COVID cases rose exponentially over the last week.  

Our student members will still have the opportunity to connect remotely through the DRC daily schedule of classes and mentoring sessions, as well as on a broader scale with other young people around the world through the Liberated Learners Network schedule of classes. If your virtual education is leaving you feeling bored and uninspired, check us out. DRC is accepting distance learning members throughout the pandemic.

And, a special thank you to Ian Corse for taking the new DRC Logo and  "cleaning it up" for us. 

We all have emotional triggers.  Some wear them prominently and proudly on their foreheads or chests as big bright red buttons - daring - you - to - push - them.  These folks feed on the drama and toxicity of instigating and promoting conflict and dissent and delight in the angry interactions that ensue.  They are happiest when they are engaged in subversive measures to prompt the desired and inevitable response.  This behavior has become so prevalent that pop-culture has coined "being a Karen" as the universal derogatory identifier.

Others of us keep our triggers undercover - until we are completely overwhelmed with the feelings of rawness and have no option but to respond.  Personally, it is most often hypocrisy and pettiness (Yes, Karen-ness) that set me off.  

I get more than a bit pissed off when we (collectively) waste enormous amounts of community (tax-payer) resources, and those who were needlessly involved are upset.  And, I resent the time and emotional energy I squander while responding to put out fires that are products of misinformation (not knowing or understanding the whole story) or blatant lies.

My point every time I encounter this type of heedless disregard for others, shameful lack of compassion and empathy, and outright unkindness (the by-product of busybodies) is that fundamental and forthright communication could have resolved the entire situation.  

If you have a problem or notice something you are unsure of or uncomfortable with, talk about it.  Weaponizing your triggers will only foster bitterness and apathy and will ultimately gain you a reputation. 

How many times have you directed those words at yourself after making a mistake?  We are so much harsher on ourselves than on anyone else.  In fact, you probably would never even consider calling someone else an idiot - unless it is yelled (along with a few other choice words) in the privacy of your car when someone cuts you off in traffic.

As you may have imagined, this post is the direct result of an incident yesterday, in which I was upset with myself.  Beyond the physical injury (yes, it was that kind of mistake), I was beating myself up pretty badly for ruining intended plans (we were on the eastern side of the State visiting my sister-in-law) and for inconveniencing my family.  

After a bit, while sitting in a bed in the Plattsburgh E.R. waiting for them to determine that I had dislocated my arm (thankfully, not broken my humerus), I realized how dumb it was to condemn myself for an accident.  Yes, it probably could have been prevented if I had tied my laces instead of just shoving my feet into my hiking boots for the short distance to retrieve my coffee from the car.  However, the fact that the lace got caught in the step, causing me to trip and land face-first in the gravel driveway, was not intentional.  

When you can realize that life is simply a series of mistakes, treat each of them as a valuable learning experience, and then move forward with all of that accumulated wisdom, you will understand that you are perpetually creating new and better versions of yourself.  

This current rendition of me is incredibly grateful and humbled to have Mike (my hubby), my family, and all of my DRC Peeps in my corner.  I will be calling on them over the coming weeks to assist me with the simplest of tasks - not the least of which will be tying my shoes.

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The DRC-East families are continuing to raise money for a furnace for the facility that hosts us in Lawrenceville.  The GoFundMe page is active and they are selling 50/50 raffle tickets until the drawing on November 5th.  Get in touch to purchase your tickets.How many times have you directed those words at yourself after making a mistake?  We are so much harsher on ourselves than on anyone else.  In fact, you probably would never even consider calling someone else an idiot - unless it is yelled (along with a few other choice words) in the privacy of your car when someone cuts you off in traffic.

Those of you who have read my blog regularly for a while have heard me mention, a few times, that serendipity is my favorite word. Not only do I love the fundamental concept, along with the feeling of playfulness it engenders, but I have also very recently come to realize that it embodies my entire life philosophy.  

I believe that openness, flexibility, adaptability, gratitude, and trust are all the keys that provide the space to explore all the possibilities.  And, not coincidentally, allows those serendipitous moments to pop up, seemingly out of nowhere.   

On the opposing side, I have come to learn that obsessively worrying about circumstances that arise, or trying to control a situation, ultimately inhibits my ability to go with the flow and embrace the incredible opportunities that present themselves along the way.  In fact, upon reflection, I often didn't even see them or their potential.  

I have discovered that expecting happy surprises, which may include people fortuitously entering my life, events occurring at a particular time, or even experiences that I had not imagined as useful, enrich my soul beyond measure.  And I am profoundly grateful. 

The boys filled the water filter on their own, and then watched carefully and discussed the process of the water going down through the filter and filling the bottom of the pitcher.  "It is going down and up at the same time." - TD

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I am excited by the potential of one such serendipitous phone call that I received this past Friday.  In the coming weeks and months, you will be witness to the unfolding results of the collaborative work that it inspires.  Stay-tuned!

Yesterday, I asked DRC kids, families, staff, and board to vote on a new t-shirt design.  One of them has become the clear front runner; however, in the interest of fairness, I am not going to say which one.  If you feel at all invested in which t-shirt would best represent DRC, please state your preference in the comments or send us a message.  I will reveal the new design in next week's blog post.

As we get closer to winter, DRC-East families are continuing to work hard on their fundraising efforts to purchase a furnace for the fantastic facility that hosts us in Lawrenceville.  Along with the 50/50 raffle (which you can also purchase at DRC Canton), they have created a "go-fund-me" page. They are grateful for any help you can offer. Thank you to everyone who has already contributed. 

The five consecutive words I hear more often than any others regarding homeschooling (or, more accurately, unschooling) are, "I want to make sure..." My response is always either, "you can't," or more directly, "don't," when I am feeling particularly spunky.

Yes, I understand that the basis of this statement is steeped in the murky and culturized depths of what society and the government school system have established as valid. However, this particular conversation makes me incredibly crazy and frustrated.

For starters, the pre-determined guidelines and standards do not take individuality, not to mention particular interests or aspirations into consideration. And, more importantly, at the end of the day, no one, except YOU, has the authority to determine the validity of what YOU choose to learn and explore.  

Autonomy is critical for problem-solving, scientific inquiry, the ability to make decisions and reason, open-mindedness, the skill to perceive injustice, and the capacity to play, explore, and wonder.  

The ill-conceived concepts of obedience, conformity, and compliance (for the good of all), have undermined and virtually erased the legitimacy of individual self-determination.

With this knowledge, I have no reason to wonder why: many young people feel lost and have no idea what they are even interested in pursuing, there is a disregard for the scientific method, and a rush to accept conspiracy theories, as well as why there is this unfathomable and disconcerting inability to understand the significance of history on our current reality.

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The DRC-East families are working on raising money to help purchase a furnace (boiler) for the house that hosts us in Lawrenceville.  If a central heat source is not installed before it gets cold, DRC-East will need to find another facility and move.  

Because DRC does not own the building, the families are organizing these on their own.  The first fundraiser is a 50/50 raffle.     Thank you for your support.

SLU Make a Difference Day
Thank you to the SLU Crew who came on Saturday to install a pallet fence, and rake our yard. 

When given the opportunity, how do you describe yourself?  Do you reference your physical and personality characteristics, along with your skills, interests, and talents?  Do you share your dreams and aspirations, and emphasize your positive attributes?  Or, do you list your deficits and the negative aspects that you dislike about yourself, first?   

Most of us have mastered the fine art of self-deprecation.  To the point where we don't even realize how much it has influenced every part of our lives.  

For fear of being labeled selfish, lazy, or narcissistic, we have learned to downplay our talents (and genius), work ourselves to the point of exhaustion, without resting, and ignore the burning desire to take the time to practice a new skill-set.       

Our health (mental and physical), relationships, and aspirations, along with our good intentions, are all the collateral damage that attests to our busy-ness and self-disparagement.

No, you are not lazy or selfish if you take time to "goof-off" and rest your mind and body.  No! You are not narcissistic if you think about following your passions and desire happiness.

Therefore, the most important question of all may be, do you know, in your heart of hearts, what inspires you to be your best self?

In the end, it all comes down to trusting that your true authentic self is perfectly suited to you (and is enough).  Your joys, intuition, hopes, desires, talents, and skills, as well as your imperfections, are all part of you for a reason.  Acting on the things that fulfill you is what will drive you to share yourself with others.  And, not coincidentally, the resulting collaborations are what bring you more fully to yourself.  Because all humans, even those of us who are extreme introverts, require meaningful connections with our fellow beings to survive and to, ultimately, thrive. 

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Thank you to Bill H. for assembling the portable basketball hoop that Tasha N. donated a couple weeks ago. We enjoyed a few short games of "PIG" before the rain arrived (and stayed around) this past week. 

Volunteer Opportunities

Thank you also to Zoe S. for picking up the CNY Foodbank order at the Canton Neighborhood Center and bringing it to DRC last Wednesday.  It is a task that we need a volunteer to take on least two Wednesdays every month.  If you would like to help out occasionally, contact me here.

DRC-East, in Lawrenceville, is booming.  Six new kids joined us this last week!  We are looking for dedicated volunteers to spend a day or two each week with our amazing kiddos over there.  If you live in the area and would like to share your skills, talents, and interests with them, please get in touch to learn more.

Thank you!

When experienced habitually, in learning environments, these are the emotions, along with excitement, anticipation, pleasure, pride, and self-respect, generated through authentic and meaningful learning experiences that produce a life-long love of learning.  Despair, fear, sadness, anxiety, and apathy are all roadblocks and lead to the antithesis.

It has been proven, time and again, that our brains literally shut down when exposed to external stress and fear. Yet, our modern, traditional school systems still rely on their foundational strategy of coercion, intimidation, and fear of failure to elicit compliance.

Even during these extraordinary times when hybrid school is their answer to a pandemic, many districts are doubling down on these tactics - instigating emotional crises and trauma where there should be none.  If there was ever a doubt about their loyalties and purpose, their callous behavior during this critical moment in time provides us with a definitive answer.  The kids they serve are not their top priority.  Additionally, I will argue that they are actively teaching children to hate the very thing they claim to provide.

If this stinging assessment seems harsh and unrealistic, you have probably not been privy to the same type and number of overwhelmingly sad stories that I have listened to over the past two weeks.  The residual trauma of pushing parents and children to their limits, while erasing joy and enthusiasm from the equation will have long term implications for everyone involved.

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This seems like a good time to send out a reminder of why DRC exists:

We believe that all young people deserve a safe, educational environment where they feel trusted and heard - and where they are free to explore all the possibilities. Learning can only happen when kids intuitively understand that they are safe, heard, and trusted to make decisions, make mistakes, and explore all their interests to achieve their ever-evolving aspirations.

DRC provides in-person or distance learning membership, as well as consultation services to homeschool on your own.  We are here for anyone who needs us.  Contact us today.
 
Volunteer Opportunities
We still need someone to pick up the FoodBank order and bring it to the Canton facility. I have an order arriving on Wednesday, while I am at the Lawrenceville Center .  Please get in touch if you can help. 

The basketball hoop still needs to be assembled - we are having issues with the nuts not going onto the bolts. What are we doing wrong?  Help!

The garage has been cleaned out a bit more, but we are looking for someone to help install organizational elements - shelving, hooks, etc. 

What does it take to become a superhero?

Many would say physical strength - I would counter that by insisting a strong moral character is imminently more desirable.  

Some would say cleverness is necessary - I would contend that wisdom has much greater value.

A good number would claim that every superhero needs a costume -  I would observe that they prefer to be authentic and forgo any form of disguise.

Others would argue (quite strenuously) that an unworldly, inhuman magical power is required - I would assert that empathy, compassion, modesty, and a commitment to use your talents and skills for the good of all is the most vital of all super-powers.

Sadly, the world lost a powerful yet humble Super-heroine on Friday.  

The good news is that each of us can step-up and dedicate ourselves to living our principles and sharing our imperfect lives with intelligence, understanding, authenticity, kindness, humility, and gratitude to release our very own inner superhero.  Every single one of us can be the hero we are seeking. 

Thank you, Justice Ginsberg, for teaching us that one person can, indeed, make the world a better place for us all.

First Days
Our first full week included a bit of tech angst while we worked out a few bugs in our virtual class platforms.  We have sixteen different virtual classes - ranging from book clubs, writing clubs, languages, and arts and crafts and facilitated by seven SLU Volunteers from the Community Based Learning Program.  We also have a couple kids joining us as distance learners. They are able to join the SLU volunteers as well as some hybrid sessions facilitated by the DRC staff.   This is all new for us and we are learning as we are going.  Fortunately, everyone involved understands that mistakes, as well as unforeseen glitches (the internet going out), happen. 

Volunteer Help Wanted -If you are able to help us out on these projects - please get in touch. Thank you!!!
1. We have a portable basketball hoop that we need help assembling.

2. We have a friend/volunteer who is a master mechanic.  He is determined to get our garage set-up properly so we can use it as an actual lab learning space for the trades (mechanics, carpentry, maybe electrical, etc.). A couple of volunteers cleaned it up significantly a couple weeks ago - but we need to bring it to the next level (creating storage and organizational systems, and work spaces, and removing items that are not being used).  This is a fairly large undertaking that will take dedicated time and some skill. 

3. There is a dead tree in the backyard that needs to be cut down.  It is very tricky and needs a pro (or two).

DRC-Lawrenceville  These Peeps had their first day together on Wednesday at the Nicandri Nature Center.  We had a fabulous time walking and exploring the trails.

Earlier this Spring, when I was looking back and trying to organize all of the nearly seven years worth of blog posts, I discovered that the most common theme, by a long stretch, was trust.  Therefore, it isn't surprising that after the first days of our academic year, it is once again at the forefront of my consciousness.  After all, it is fundamental to our philosophy and methodology at DRC.

I get the same questions every year from our members, parents, and absolute strangers that ultimately revolve around "making sure."  

"How do you know they are doing the things they say they are doing?"
"How do I prove that I have done something?"
"What if I don't want to do math?"
"How do you know they are learning something?"
"How will they learn basic math (reading, writing, spelling, history, science)?"
"How will they get into college (get a job, function in society) if they only do the things they want to do?
"How will they learn discipline?"

And, then, come the statements:

"If you don't force them to do something, they will take advantage of you."
"Kids are fundamentally lazy."
"My child is not self-directed."
"My kid is only interested in video games."
"My child hates reading (math, history, spelling, science)."

These are all valid points when you consider that their point of view is based purely on their experience and knowledge of nothing but the traditional, compulsory, coercive system.

Yes, I, absolutely, trust that all of my "Peeps" are learning, growing, and making mistakes all the time.  I believe that they, at their very core, know exactly what they need.  I have confidence that they are all capable of seeking out the necessary support, knowledge, and experience when they are ready.  I understand that they are all unique individuals with personal internal timetables, natural inclinations, aspirations, and, most importantly, free will.

When you consider that curiosity and creativity drive all learning and then go on to understand that all humans are born curious, isn't it natural to trust that every one of us will learn everything we need to - in our lifetime?  Learning, after all, is a life-long endeavor.  

Coercion is the only thing that will, without a doubt, turn-off, shutdown, and otherwise disengage our innate inquisitiveness and inventiveness, and ultimately our love of learning. And our traditional educational systems are designed to do just that.  When obedience became the core principle of the educational system - not learning, that is the exact moment when trust was converted into a rare, beautiful, precious, and unexpected gift.


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We are Back!

After a six month hiatus, this past Thursday was our first day back in the DRC Canton Facility.  I am so excited to connect with all of "my" kiddos, again. We have an awesome crew of veterans and newbies!  We spent a good portion of our first days considering everything that we want to include in our schedule and getting to know each other.  I am grateful for their uniquely, wonderful personalities, and the humor, curiosity, creativity, and intellect they each bring to the group.

This year I am delighted that our team of four in Canton includes myself, Elian, our staff person, Chase, the Senior Apprentice (returning for his second year), and Ryan our Apprentice.   It is incredibly exciting to have these young people with us, training to work in a self-directed learning environment. The goal is that they will go out into the world to work with other organizations, or even found a center of their own.  

Lawrenceville will open this coming Wednesday and then every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday.  Happily, Trish will return as our Tues. & Thurs. staff person and I will be there every Wednesday.  

We have a few openings in both Canton and Lawrenceville. You are welcome to get in touch if your child is interested in joining us.  

Our Distance Learning Program is up and running as well and has a couple of slots open.  Or, if your family has decided to homeschool on your own, consultation services are also available.

You have probably heard the axiom that growth and change require discomfort.  I don't know about you, but I am not often willing to feel uncomfortable - no matter the potential positive result. For me, the word "discomfort" sounds painful, coercive, and frankly reminiscent of sitting in a dentist's chair.  

I  prefer to use the word "challenging" instead.  A challenge, foremost, represents freedom and the opportunity to explore all the available options - not as something to fight against, but something to fight for.

Highlighting this distinction in language brings me directly to the vitally important conversations that are occurring around the country right now.  I believe that the ultimate goals of the Black Lives Matter movement, and the widespread call for systemic change for black and brown people, the 98%, LGBTQIA+ folks, refugees, and those suffering from mental illness, can only happen by providing a set of circumstances that allow for the freedom to choose to have personal fundamental belief systems challenged.   

We know that we can not force someone to change their mind - we cannot argue or ridicule them into seeing a non-racist, non-xenophobic, non-misogynistic, non-homophobic, compassionately, empathetic point of view.  When people feel like they are strong-armed or guilted into change, it instigates defensive postures, resentment, and ultimately hatred against those that they perceive forced the adaptation.  Which often breeds violence, accomplishing the exact opposite of the initial intention.  

I believe our best way forward is to shine a very bright light on all of the cultural barriers that prevent everyone from living a life free from systemic injustice, prejudice, and bigotry. Then present it as a challenge for all of us to problem solve and work on, together - freely.  I will argue that at the end of the day, almost everyone wants to feel like they are an important part of a community and that they had a hand in creating something valuable and worthwhile.  

And, then comes the most important piece of this entire process, we absolutely need to recognize and normalize the efforts and value of changing one's mind.  After all, change begets growth and learning - the two things that humans are perfectly designed to do.

In a bit over a week, we will open the doors to both, DRC-Canton and DRC-East in Lawrenceville, for a new year sure to be filled with adventures and challenges.  If you are still conflicted about what you and your family are doing, or are unhappy with the choice you made, get in touch.  We are here to help you navigate all your options. 

Each of the Deep Root Center Social Media graphics this week has begun with the words, "Dare to" followed by actions that, unfortunately, in today's culture, need to lead with that verbal challenge.  Dare to - color outside the lines, use your imagination, dream, make mistakes, fail, be disappointed, and the one that has not posted yet, "Dare to embrace and celebrate your flawed, yet amazingly, awesome authentic self."

Most of us are afraid to imagine contemplating doing any of those things - let alone, actually, do them.  We have all learned that fitting in is the standard to which we will be judged - every damn time.  And as a result, creativity has been the collateral paid to achieve our collective insipidness.   

We have developed a culture, tethered by the fear of failure, where very few are willing to take the deep plunge into the boundless world of innovative problem-solving - because, instead of honoring mistakes and framing them as an opportunity for real learning, we chastise and punish.  

The inspiring Sir Ken Robinson, who sadly passed away this weekend, framed this modern educational (and now cultural) shortcoming, beautifully, in his now, infamous, 2006 TED Talk entitled, "Do Schools Kill Creativity?" 

One of his main points, in both his speech and his book of the same title, is that "children have an extraordinary capacity for innovation - that all kids have tremendous talents, and we squander them, pretty ruthlessly."  R.I.P. - Sir Ken. Your gentle humor and unconventional ideas about the future of education will be greatly missed.

In case you have not noticed, the only way the human species is going to survive is if the dare-devils, the ingenious problem-solvers, generate innovative ideas to solve the mess we have created. These are the folks who are unafraid to step outside the box, challenge the status quo, and ignore the naysayers.  No!  Not to produce more conspiracy theories, by actively seeking out conclusions that match their notions.  But, to diligently work through experimentation and analysis of their ideas, within the scientific method, with openness and willingness to share their process and results (both positive and negative) with their scientific peers and the broader community, with the understanding that they may, very well, be wrong.  The vital piece, within this entire scenario, is their enthusiasm for re-framing the original question to accommodate the knowledge gained from their "failed" attempt(s).

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Thank you!
An enormous thank you to Dave Schryver for donating the time (design), materials, skills, and labor to build this lean-to in the DRC backyard.  It will keep us (and our projects) sheltered this fall.   

We are extremely grateful for all the folks who came out, yesterday, to help build it, clean-up the yard (cut some tree branches), and sort out and clean the garage.  Thanks to Zoe Schryver and fam, Branden and Brayden F., Derek S., Mike C., Bill H., and Liberty S. 

Race To Nowhere - Film

This is an amazing opportunity to watch this acclaimed film from ten years ago that seems more relevant than ever, and to hear from the director.  Follow this link to register (by donation) -  watch the film at your leisure, and then join us on Thursday, August 27th, at 7 pm for a virtual panel that includes the film's director.

One day, six years ago, I was standing at the Deep Root Center table at the Canton Farmers' Market in the Canton Village Park, talking to people about DRC, as they passed by.  I was feeling more than a little intimidated by the entire process, mainly because a) I am an introvert, and b) I was still in the process of developing the language to describe why DRC exists, how we provide services, and what we are.  

I will always remember the one guy who walked up while I was talking to another family and asked, "so what is your agenda?"  To say that I was startled by the question would be putting it mildly.  I looked at him and said, "I (we) don't have one."  He looked back at me with what I can only describe as contempt, and said, "everyone has an agenda," and walked away.  That one, seemly, inconsequential encounter has stuck with me - it felt like he was accusing me of being there with, nefarious, intent - for "drumming up business" and hawking DRC for other reasons besides what was clearly visible to anyone who passed by.  

Today, after six years of being completely immersed in doing what we do (working with more than 100 young people), and talking about it, I would be able to say that, "yes, we do have an agenda."  Although, it doesn't have the negative connotation that he was implying.  

Deep Root Center exists solely because all young people deserve a safe, educational environment where they feel trusted and heard - and where they are free to explore all the possibilities.  Because, learning can only happen when kids intuitively understand that they are safe, heard, and trusted to make decisions, make mistakes, and explore all their interests to achieve their ever-evolving aspirations.  

In the simplest possible terms, we are here to help any child, along with their family, opt-out of traditional schools to dive deeply into the subjects and themes they are curious about, seek out opportunities that excite them, and build their future.  It is, indeed, an agenda - one that we can be, profoundly, proud to explain to anyone who asks.

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Join us this coming Saturday, August 22nd, to build a lean-to in the DRC backyard.  It will provide shelter this Fall for the majority of our activities and projects this Fall - during this age of COVID.  All skill levels welcome!

The answer is, almost always, “yes.”  When the question begins, “Can I …,” the response will be, “absolutely, yes.” And, when the person sitting in front of me (or, on the other end of the phone) says, “I wish DRC were able to offer …”, the reply, as long as it fits within our non-coercive, philosophy of self-directed education, will always be, “we can.”  

When someone asks these questions, I know they have already begun the process. They have given the project, activity, or program a ton of thought. They are committed to their idea and are willing to try, make mistakes, fail, and try again.  At this point, they are only seeking approval to continue because they need the resources, or, maybe, they simply need validation.

In saying, “yes,” I am acknowledging that we may have to work together, to explore the possibilities, to figure it out.  And, I understand that by offering affirmation, I am providing the permission they feel they need before they open their own floodgates to creativity and curiosity – both of which can only lead to real and authentic learning.     

We are creating a culture of ingenuity here.  “Yes,” is the opening – an indication of flexibility – and an absolute gift.