Don't Tell Me What to Do

Have you noticed that a direct demand often feels icky when you are on the receiving end? Most of us, by our very nature, resist being told what to do. A few of us often observe a dictate as an open challenge and intentionally do the opposite.

Maybe not ironically, the foundation of our traditional educational system is built on telling kids what to do and how, when, and where to do it.

We punish those kids who push back against that built-in coercion - and then place a laser focus on their deficits (and "bad" behavior) with more ineffectual intimidation and oppression.  

On the other end of the spectrum, some succumb after years of constant instruction, doing precisely as told (no more or less), and are rewarded.  

Children from both categories find their way to Deep Root Center. The kids in the first group often come with a bright red warning label that screams impulsivity and trouble. But all I see is restrained, untapped potential - endless imagination, problem-solving skills, and vision.

To be completely transparent - it is absolutely exhausting to be around all that chaotic energy, and I have to constantly remind myself that putting a leash on it would destroy the very essence of innovation and ingenuity that this world needs.

Working with those in the second group can be equally emotionally taxing. Don't be fooled - perceived victim-hood and "I can't" syndrome are absolutely real and crippling. These folks, even as adults, have no idea how to do anything without direction or rewards - they have no sense of creativity or problem-solving skills to speak of and throw their hands up in surrender when they bump up against anything that becomes even the tiniest bit challenging. Getting them to a place of joyful self-motivation - without using sticks or carrots is a herculean task, too.

In both cases, we actively try to avoid telling kids what to do. The first group wouldn't listen anyway, and we would only be setting the second group back by reinforcing their internalized helplessness.

Some would say we are creating a generation of "brats" who can't (won't) do what they're told - my response is we are supporting kids to be responsible for their words and actions - show kindness and compassion for others, and speak (show) up for themselves. All the while not sheltering them from the real world. 

DRC NEWS

The drawing for our Lotto Ticket Raffle is March 17th! Purchase your chances here.

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Meet us at the Kid Expo next Saturday, March 16th from 10 - 4. We will be there with a table full of arts and crafts supplies for kids to create to their heart's content.  Stop in to learn more about DRC.

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Don't miss out on this latest exclusive design, on tees and hoodies in adult and kid sizing, from your friends at Deep Root Center.  Visit our Printify Shop here.

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Lots of hands-on action and cool conversations were had at both Centers this past week.