We all have emotional triggers. Some wear them prominently and proudly on their foreheads or chests as big bright red buttons - daring - you - to - push - them. These folks feed on the drama and toxicity of instigating and promoting conflict and dissent and delight in the angry interactions that ensue. They are happiest when they are engaged in subversive measures to prompt the desired and inevitable response. This behavior has become so prevalent that pop-culture has coined "being a Karen" as the universal derogatory identifier.
Others of us keep our triggers undercover - until we are completely overwhelmed with the feelings of rawness and have no option but to respond. Personally, it is most often hypocrisy and pettiness (Yes, Karen-ness) that set me off.
I get more than a bit pissed off when we (collectively) waste enormous amounts of community (tax-payer) resources, and those who were needlessly involved are upset. And, I resent the time and emotional energy I squander while responding to put out fires that are products of misinformation (not knowing or understanding the whole story) or blatant lies.
My point every time I encounter this type of heedless disregard for others, shameful lack of compassion and empathy, and outright unkindness (the by-product of busybodies) is that fundamental and forthright communication could have resolved the entire situation.
If you have a problem or notice something you are unsure of or uncomfortable with, talk about it. Weaponizing your triggers will only foster bitterness and apathy and will ultimately gain you a reputation.
The DRC-East parent group is currently raising funds to purchase a heating system for the Lawrenceville facility. You can contribute directly to the gofundme here.
They and the student members will also be set up at the Kinney Drugs this coming Tuesday and Wednesday between 10-2 to sell 50/50 Raffle tickets. The drawing will be November 5th. If you are out and about in Massena on either of those days - mask up and come down to support their efforts.
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