'Tis that time of year - resolutions abound.
As I see it, they often come wrapped up in ostentatious packages tied with pretty bows, but beneath all the glitter, glam, and promises lay gigantic dilemmas in implementation. An all-or-nothing mentality, without room for moderation, framed in the negative - defeats the original intention before we begin - every time.
As individuals in this society, we already have so many unnecessary, unrealistic, and absurd standards and pressures - that only leads to disappointment in ourselves and judgement of others.
Yes - absolutely - aspirations for better health, family life, career, increased skills and knowledge, and a general attitude adjustment are all things to aim for.
However, when you live in a state of constant anxiety and guilt - focusing on the nots, nos, stops, don'ts, and "not-dones" while working on that "better" you - your health will ultimately suffer, and you won't succeed.
One of the main reasons we fail is that our brains can't (don't) work in a negative or fearful mode - Simon Sinek has a beautiful example here. If we want something, we have to frame it in the positive.
So when the New Year rolls around on Monday - here is an idea: resolve to be more fully yourself, treat yourself and others with kindness and respect, eat the delicious food, do the things that make you happy, commit to following your interests and passions while exploring the possibilities that present themselves, give a name to what you want for yourself, and, the rest will follow.
Funny enough - sticks and carrots don't work - even when you are bargaining with yourself.
Happy 2024 from the DRC Crew!
After this restful break, we are looking forward to being back in the buildings on Tuesday.
If you need to get in touch with me (Maria) - my new number is 315-323-1435. Email and text work best - I can't always get to my phone to answer it. The first few days after the Holiday break will be busy!
To date our annual appeal has raised over $4700.00! Thank you to everyone who has contributed so far - including a very generous gift of $2500 from Sara Corse and Kenwyn Smith, of Philadelphia, PA, and a $1000.00 check from another long-time local supporter. We are deeply grateful for everyone's financial and emotional commitments to our work.
There is one more day to contribute to DRC in 2023.
Your gift helps us continue to keep our promise to our NoCo community to accept any child who needs our help - no matter their family's financial situation. Thank you!
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