Changing Minds .... 

I think we can probably all agree that every single one of us is a completely unique individual with completely unique ideas, ethics, and philosophies. Therefore, if I said that my thoughts, morals, and principles were the only honorable way to maneuver through this life, outrage would ensue. I would like to point out, however, that every time we argue a point of contention, we are in a very small way doing just that.


Debating, quibbling, and fighting over individual ideals and beliefs will not (usually) change anyone's mind. Because, at the end of the day, we all have this intrinsic belief that we are right. The only way to explain this phenomenon rationally is to simply say it is the result of being human.


Anthropologists call it ethnocentrism, which, I think, only really explains how one ethnicity believes they are superior to all others. Some say it justifies colonialism, slavery, etc....


I personally call this behavior egocentrism, which definitely has negative connotations, but is, I believe, a much better description for this innate human condition that even the wise and enlightened among us have difficulty escaping.


Within this humanness, we look to and are attracted to folks who agree with us on the broadest issues. The people who think, look, or speak differently automatically become “the other”, and as I have mentioned in previous posts, permits all manner of atrocities to be committed. This conduct does not exclude the most forward thinkers; on some level, we are all guilty, simply because we are all human beings.


At this point, we have established that we are all totally different. We all believe our way is best; we will all fight over our perceived rightness, and, as a result, we will not change our minds despite arguments leveled at our deemed incorrectness. If this is indeed all true, then we can also agree that debates are beyond useless!


I would like to propose, in the new year, that instead of lecturing, judging, debasing, ostracizing, or criticizing someone for their personal beliefs, we offer them the circumstances to freely seek out new information, knowledge, and understanding, as well as the opportunity to change their minds without feeling coerced or pressured.


We may also, in the process, find the strength, awareness, wisdom, and hope to change our own minds about previously held personal truths.


Just think about all of the favorable conditions for open-minded growth, change, and peace that will emerge, not to mention, stress relief!


* This post was partially inspired by a Seth Godin blog entitled Making a New Decision from a few weeks ago.


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