I have been inspired, in the past few weeks, by people who have taken charge of their lives, their educations, and their physical well-being. These particular folks are fierce in their desire to honor and know themselves, however, their intent is not based on committing violence or simply getting their way; they all promote positivity and action by jubilantly supporting free-will and independence.
Many of these admirable people have recently decided that it was time to stand up and take back their power after encountering bullies of all shapes, sizes, and forms. These actions have required strength and fortitude, because a bully is someone who will manipulate and intimidate people and situations in whatever way they deem necessary to get their desired outcome.
If you want to have an active and socially involved life it is nearly impossible to avoid bullies; because, they often hide behind positions of respectability and honor and they seldom look or behave like thugs or miscreants. They use words and actions that are subtle with hidden motives to coerce, influence, or control. It all appears, oh so, polite, pleasant and completely above board.
I will contend, nevertheless, that this type of bullying is sometimes more dangerous than obvious physical violence and harassment. These people can sound so reasonable and make such a great case for why you should do or say what they are promoting. And, lets face it, you would be unreasonable not to cooperate, right?
Taking back your individual power has to begin with the recognition that you are being unfairly influenced and manipulated in the first place. This can be downright scary, because your sensibility can be called into question (are you crazy?) and you are often up against an idea or institution that is socially and culturally accepted.
Facing down a bully can be as simple as smiling and standing up for your ideas and rights with grace and dignity. No name calling, bad language, pushing, or shoving is required. Watch this fantastic video to see how a teenager was able to turn his life around by being nice.
It also means that you are now responsible for your decisions. You can no longer make excuses or blame anyone else for your mistakes and goof-ups, and, no one else gets credit for the things that turn out amazing, because you own them all: good, fantastic, silly, unwise, plain old bad, or ….
Once you understand that you are truly in charge of your life choices, you will feel more powerful, and the laws of attraction will kick in; the good will and positivity you send into the world will be reflected back to you in an abundance of acceptance and love.